She Finds Joy

Ep 86| Kim needs a sabbatical

I have decided to take a break from podcasting. After much reflection, I can see that my mind is exhausted from all of the content creation I do on a weekly basis. I write to emails/blogs. I create video clips for courses. I create slide decks for presentations. I create contact for my Facebook Group and try to engage with them. And I create this podcast, which includes recording an episode, getting it transcribed, writing shownotes, video-editing, social media creations, etc.
And I’ve decided it’s time to simply parts of my business and all of the “creating” I do in a week. This is not an easy decision because I feel like I’m letting all of you down. But for now it feels like the one that will most serve me when I ask myself, “How do I want to feel in my life.”
What’s in the episode: 
How our inner critical fights back when we make decisions that serve our mental health
Why rest is a right and not a reward
How to make hard decisions and stop dealing with all the “shoulds”
How to dial back while also dialing in to your inner self.
“It’s time to replace the “shoulds” in our lives and ask ourselves, “How do I really want to feel in my life?”
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
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Ep 85 | Breaking the Silence and Opening Up About Mental Illness with Vaughn Rush

Vaughn Rush is a liberated, black, gay man who served as a behavioral specialist in the Army serving in Iraq. He’s also an entertainer and go-go dancer who travels the world performing. I met Vaughn in Stowe, Vermont, while he was vacationing, and I was on a sabbatical writing my book. We instantly connected over having real conversations and sharing our most authentic truths. 
In this episode, Vaughn opens up about his bipolar disorder and what it means to navigate life by loving all parts of himself. He gets very vulnerable about what it means to be a gay, black man, endure mental health struggles, and advocate for himself and countless others. 
What’s in the episode: 
Vaughn’s time in the military as a gay, black man
What it means to feel supported in WHO you are 
Why being open about mental health is so important 
His mental illness challenges
Strategies he uses to navigate the dark times
“In a way, I feel very blessed for my mental health struggle because I've had a lot of things along the way that safeguarded me and kept me alive.” - Vaughn Rush
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.
 
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About Vaughn Rush
Vaughn Rush, professionally known as Sean Vaughn Carter is an Army Veteran, entrepreneur, Male Lead & Entertainer, go-go dancer and international traveler. He currently lives in New York City and San Diego California, although frequently traveling the states and abroad. Vaughn graduated from Frank Sinatra School of the Arts High School in New York City and is currently pursuing his Master of Social Work at Fordham University.
Vaughn served in the United States Army for 7 years, deploying to Iraq in 2011 as a Behavioral Health Specialist and medic. For 6 years prior to the Covid pandemic, Vaughn owned ad operated a backpackers hostel in San Diego California. Currently, you can catch Vaughn, or Sean Vaughn Carter, go-go dancing in New York City, San Francisco, Long Beach, and abroad, as well as a Male Lead in pageants, nightclubs, and Brunch drag shows. Vaughn’s passions include travel, mental health, physical fitness, gay pride, and authenticity. 

Ep 84 | Managing Your Inner Critic & Practicing Compassion

In our everyday lives, we spend a great deal of time telling ourselves that we aren't good enough, smart enough, talented enough, or thin enough. Our minds tell us we don't deserve the things we want. Our desires will never come true; even if they do, they will disappoint us. It’s called the inner critic―that part of us that judges us, shames us, and makes us feel inadequate And it affects us in very powerful ways.
 
In this episode, Kim explains we get messages from our primary caregivers, society, and our community that tell us how we are supposed to operate in the world. There are invisible rules and expectations of how we are supposed to “do life.” In order to protect ourselves, our inner critic shows up to keep us in line. But the inner critic exaggerates and judges, and while it has our best interest at heart, it doesn’t help us or motivate us to change. Instead, it keeps us from being true to ourselves. 
 
Kim walks you through 4 layers of self-talk, according to Jack Canfield, and how we can coach ourselves in a positive and more rewarding way.  
 
What’s in the episode: 
The role of the inner critic
How we are living in the emotional traps we grew up in
How our beliefs shape our perceptions of how we show up in the world
The 4 layers of self-talk to overcome your inner critic
 
 
“When guilt and shame are used to control you, you become someone you’re not. ”-Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! 
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 83 | How to Overcome Perfectionism and Embrace Who You Are

We all struggle with the fear of not being enough. We are good at faking it. We go through the world smiling, acting as if we are okay when in reality, we might be inwardly struggling. Perfectionism is striving for flawlessness by setting unrealistically high standards for ourselves.
We use perfectionism as a shield to avoid rejection, shame, criticism, and failure. We try to be the perfect worker, spouse, parent, follow the rules, and so on, yet it leaves us feeling exhausted.
In today’s episode, Kim explains how perfectionism shows up in our lives and provides insight into how to rewrite our stories and begin living a bigger, bolder life full of imperfection that is a truer version of yourself and feels so much better. 
 
What’s in the episode: 
What is behind our “not-enoughness”
The definition of perfectionism and why it keeps us stuck
How the fixed mindset and getting praised for achievements create perfectionism
What perfectionism is actually hiding
How to rethink our stories and embrace our authentic selves
 
“When you start to make decisions that are more aligned with who you are at your core, you will probably outgrow a lot of people ” -Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! 
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 82 | Sharing Our Shame Stories and Getting What We Need

Shame is a powerful emotion and happens to all of us. It involves looking inwardly in a harsh way with a critical eye while we beat ourselves up even for the smallest mistakes.
We are so overly critical of ourselves, and then we hide or bury our feelings of shame when we need to learn to release them with people who have earned the right to hear our stories.
Through sharing our stories, we free ourselves from some of the pain we are carrying and holding inside of ourselves. 
What’s in the episode: 
Why shame needs words and a voice to be free
Hustling for worthiness to account for our believed inadequacies 
Six types of people not to share your shame story with
How to exercise compassion towards ourselves and others
 
“You have to love yourself enough to reach out for help and support when going through hard things. ”-Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! 
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 81| Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

Are you afraid of making decisions? Asking your boss for a raise? Launching your own business? Asking for what you want in your relationship? What prevents us from taking the actions we need in our lives to get to the next level? FEAR!
Fear is one of the greatest obstacles to our success because with fear comes uncomfortableness and many people wait for uncomfortableness to leave before they act. In this episode, I’m going to teach you why you must learn to feel uncomfortable, to feel the fear, and do it anyway!
What’s in the episode: 
Why “action” is the bridge between our inner world and outer world
The inner journey it takes to get the outer results we want
How to move from stuckness to action
The mindset it takes to play in the arena of bigness
 
“Many times our fears are so strong and dramatic that they keep us stuck. ” - Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 80 | How Gratitude Increases Happiness

Ep 80| How Gratitude Increases Happiness
 
Dr. Masuro Emoto discovered that molecules in water are affected by our thoughts, words, and feelings. Humans are made up of 70% of water, which means the words we expose ourselves and others to have an impact on them.
He discovered that crystals formed in frozen water with positive words written on them formed brilliant, clear, snowflake patterns while negative words directed toward water formed fragmented, dark crystals.
This research proves that when we practice gratitude and send that positive energy towards ourselves, mostly made of water, we get positive results and feel happier in our lives. 
What’s in the episode: 
The science between thoughts and water
How our thoughts affect our lives in big ways
The practice of gratitude creates positive emotions and feelings.
How to practice gratitude 
 
“It’s time to build a life you don’t feel you have to regularly escape from.” Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! 
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 79 | The Magic Keys to Happiness

Is it possible to create more happiness in our life? Should we be interested in happiness, or is that silly?
I feel like we all want to be happier, but we are a bit afraid to admit it because it makes us feel like something is wrong in our lives. But creating intentional happiness habits in our lives improves every area of our lives. But are we focusing on the wrong things?
Yes, we are much of the time, but I’m about to give you an education on the Science of Happiness. 
What’s in the episode: 
The things we chase in hopes of fulfillment
Understanding the components of happiness 
The control you have over your happiness 
A happiness strategy to help when you feel down
“We get to create our happiness from the inside out.” - Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 78 | How to Get Through Hard Things

Ep 78| How to get through hard things.
 
Don’t take anything personally. That’s the second agreement of Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic, “The Four Agreements.” He states, “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
I’ve been criticized many times in my life. Many times it absolutely consumed me. But in this episode, I hope to share some insight I’ve learned over the years and hopefully give you a path through your pain and get you to evaluate it from a new perspective.
 
What’s in the episode: 
A very hard thing I recently went through.
How to move through the pain and muck others throw at you
How to deal with petty trolls
What I differently now when it comes to criticism. 
 
“Within every struggle, every obstacle, every challenge, every injustice, we get a choice to decide how we're going to react and how we're going to let it affect us.”- Kim Strobel
 
If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy.
I would also love it if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!
 
Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now!
If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below! 
Register for The Happy Academy now! 
 
About Kim 
Kim Strobel is Chief Happiness Officer at Kim Strobel Live Events and Retreats. She is a teacher, consultant, motivational speaker, happiness coach, and a mission-minded person whose passion helps others overcome their fears and discover their joy!
 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.
 

EP 77 | Burnout & Why I Created The Happy Academy

Burnout is a kind of exhaustion that seeps into every aspect of your life. Even though I travel around the country teaching teachers, business people, and more about how to overcome burnout, I can tell you that I, too, have been experiencing it lately. For me, burnout looks like:  
The inability to shut work off, even when I should be enjoying time off 
An incessant need to keep checking my emails
The feeling of obsessively thinking about "everything that needs to get done"
Tiredness, irritability, and frustration with people around me 
I recently asked others in my Facebook Group what burnout out looks like to them and got these responses: 
Knots in my stomach the closer I get to work, despite LOVING my job.
Never having satisfaction with my job and never feeling like I’m doing enough. 
Letting down all of the teachers I’m supposed to be leading, and I feel hopeless.
Dreading going to work every day and counting the days until break.
Never feeling like I’m meeting expectations. 
Being so overwhelmed with tasks and asks that I don’t even know where to start.
Lost desire, unable to focus on anything, and no amount of time off or other activities.
Investing in my own business so I can leave my current profession. 
Overworked (worked daily my entire sick leave), underpaid (completely revamped teaching during COVID/no overtime, no bonuses), and not thought of as a real person.
You are allowed to have heavy emotions. It’s important to give ourselves the grace to feel the way we do and practice some self-compassion. 
Even though I sometimes enter the burnout stage, I recognize the signs of when it’s coming on, and I have a set of habits that get me out of the gutter quicker. You are not alone in the struggle. I am there too. 
What You’ll Learn From This Episode:
How to identify burnout when it’s first setting in. 
Why it’s so hard to get off the hamster wheel of life. 
Why I created a program focused on shifting the inner blueprint of our life. 
How to leverage your mindset and overcome limiting beliefs. 
Why our relationship with ourselves is our biggest asset. 
How to take action to become who you want to be. 
How to step forward with confidence and discover your greatness.. 
“If you can’t see your own value, the world can’t give you value back.” - Kim Strobel
 
Helpful Links 
Get on the waitlist for The Happy Academy now! 
About Kim 
Kim Strobel is Chief Happiness Officer at Kim Strobel Live Events and Retreats. She is a teacher, consultant, motivational speaker, happiness coach, and a mission-minded person whose passion helps others overcome their fears and discover their joy!
 
You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.